Well my big-lil sis called me yesterday while D and I were on our way to the ball game, balling her eyes out. She just moved in with our crazy parents on the Gulf Coast a few weeks ago. When she told me her plans to move down there, I thought she was completely crazy. Our step-dad is nuts. Literally. He has recently been diagnosed as bi-polar, which explains SOOO Much of our childhood. He was an ass. Still is. He treated me, my siblings, and worst of all my mother like crap. Dont ask me why my mother could never leave him, but she couldnt. So long story short, I moved out at 16. big-lil sis moved out at 17, lil sis moved out at 16, because he just treated us so badly. Hopefully you understand now, why I was so confused when she said she would be staying with them. I think the problem is that we all feel sorry for our mother and want to help her have a better life. But eventually you have to just cope with the fact that – if she really wanted out, she would be out. I told my sis that, but its hard for her to hear. She knows its the truth, but she doesnt want to leave my mom. However, she cant stay living in that house.
We think my step-dad stopped taking his medication. He was pretty level for a while right after the diagnosis. But now, he is just a crazy man again. When my sis told me last week some of the things he has been saying to her I couldnt believe it. It was like we were 10 years old again. Who does he think he is treating her that way? That is not okay in my book. So when she called me yesterday and asked if I could help her find a plane ticket home, that he told her she needed to leave, I was more than happy to help. My uncle also offered to help, and she will be staying with him when she is here.
The sad part is that my mom had to “sneak” and drop her off at the airport this morning while he was still sleeping. She said she didnt want to argue with him. To me that is ridiculous. I would never stay in a marriage like that. But I guess I am fortunate enough that I am strong. I would never put up with D if he got like that. And he knows it.
So at 6:30 pm today I will be greeting my big-lil sis at the airport. Finally welcoming her home. It will be nice to have her back home for a while.
