Comments on: Im Funky

By: neverapartinheart

neverapartinheart — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 13:12:06 +0000

You know… I thought of you and my friend Lopsided Mom as I wrote this post. I was wondering if you guys get the opposite. People butting in and saying – wow, three is just too much. Or – you are going to have your hands full.

I know I’ve heard it said before to people, but since Im not in the situation I didnt know if it was as common as – when you going to have baby #2?

So I guess all aroud, people need to keep it shut!

By: the mrs.

the mrs. — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 13:05:48 +0000

Yeah I dont get why people feel like some incredibly personal questions are ok. (Kinda like when they ask when your husband is going to get out or if he’s staying in, I dont ask the cashier at Target or my doctor how long till her finds a new job)

I’m pregnant with #3 now and I get the opposite, people have no problems telling me how crazy my life will be and how we should have waited. a bit late now people isnt it?

I think I’m going to just start kicking people and then running/waddling away.

By: The Army Wife

The Army Wife — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 16:53:38 +0000

I can definitely relate to this, even without kids. As a couple who has struggled to conceive, finally doing so, and then it ending in the miscarriage, it is like a knife to the heart when people who DON’T EVEN KNOW ME start asking “oh, so when are you going to have kids?” “How come you two haven’t started yet?”

Just because I’m an Army Wife, I’m expected to have popped out five kids already, even though I’m not even 30, because you know, that’s the Army Standard. People who just meet me think that it’s weird that we are 28/30 and don’t have any kids yet.

So I feel ya, sister. It’s rude, and inconsiderate, and I HATE answering those questions.

By: liberal army wife

liberal army wife — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 10:47:38 +0000

as the only child of an only child, and as the mom of an only and gramma of a doll who probably will be an only – we are just fine as onlies , thank you very much. Sheesh! Yeah, honey, I remember this crap too… and I’m afraid I started to lie and say we just weren’t able to have another. It was easier than trying to justify – to strangers!- why we didn’t have a bunch. Wish I’d been stronger and able to say – well, I didn’t realize you took such an interest in my family – when shall we put you down for babysitting? and how’s that college fund you started for my child?

As for the funk – we all seem to be in the dumps. August weekend – we’ll be better!

LAW

By: neverapartinheart

neverapartinheart — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 22:09:09 +0000

I think that maybe most people dont know how rude and insensitive it is. Maybe a few people will stumble across this and spread the word.

Sorry to hear that the maintenance guy was a douchebag. I cant imagine how that would have felt, but I might have had a really hard time NOT punching him. For real.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 21:16:59 +0000

One time, a base housing maintenance guy was at my house fixing my dishwasher and we started making small talk. He told me he had five kids and I said, “Wow!”

He then asked if I had any kids and I said no. So he says to me, “What’s your problem? Do you just hate kids or something?”

At the time, we were trying to get pregnant and it wasn’t working. I felt like punching him in the forehead!

I’ll never understand why people feel the need to give unsolicited advice on such a personal subject.

We need to rally the troops and come up with a really kick-ass response to those nosy jerks!

BTW, every only child that I know is an awesome kid / adult.